What makes you happy? Do you think owning a luxury car, endless shopping, sumptuous meal fit for a king make you happy?
Hmm, there is more to happiness than meets the eye here.
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When you’re deprived of sleep, child throws a tantrum even at the smallest things, then she falls on the floor if she can’t get what she wants; your teen daughter knows how to wear make-up but can’t tidy her own space, admit it: you are about to lose your temper and to scream (at the top of your lungs) is a relief. Lo and behold, I forgive you for forgetting that patience is a virtue.
1. Cool Off:
Fires are burning hotter, cool down the area by pouring cool water over. You should do the same when dealing with difficult children or upsetting situation – don’t say a word (that word may be the “killing sword”), back off, proceed to take a shower, or go for a walk…a long walk – a mile or two is a great start (who knows, you’ll soon end up a contender for a walkathon).
Cool off by using a positive attitude instead of a punitive one. Easier said than done, I know. But hey, when do you think is the right time to mentally stop before your anger gets the best of you?
2. Express Regret:
Let me tell you a story. I once screamed my rage (I remembered it reaching the top of Mt. Everest) because my son did not heed my words. I used bad words like st&*^%*, du&*^, da^%$#, idi*^&%$ and pu&^%$#*: those words can “kill”. Glad, they were not so “sharp” to make a cut.
Often, realization comes when you already hurt the feelings of others. I regret being so hard with my son and what I did was really wrong.
Remember, consequences of events whether you have little control or in control, you have to express regrets. It is appropriate for your children to deserve your sympathy after being an angry bird. Say you’re sorry, then, admit to becoming frustrated with what happened.
List down what elicits the anger. Is it when your kids bring home a low grade (lower than before?), a habit of grumbling, or lack of respect especially for older adults? Refresh your memory, the list can be simple. Just do your homework and you’ll end up getting the highest grade possible.
4. Plans are Fun to Make:
Especially if you work together with your children, plans surely would be fun to make. Write how everyone should deal with anger especially in a difficult situation. What area in the house helps cool down the feeling of anger? How about a long minute walk or a cool shower?
Remember that counting from one to eternity is still a good choice to die down the fire.
Parenting is real and you know that it is in no way easy. Having a plan designed to deal with anger and not losing your temper easily makes all the difference.
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The real issue behind Demi Moore’s frantic 911 call has not been resolved as of today. There have been insinuations that she had smoke “something” that smells like incense, according to one of Demi Moore’s friends.
Demi Moore’s frenzy 911 phone call lasts for about 10 minutes. While she was dizzy, her friends took over the phone. The 911 operator was trying at least seeking answers about any drugs or medications that Demi Moore might have taken prior to the incident. However, Moore’s friend didn’t have any idea as to what Demi might have consumed.
Before the frantic call, the 49 year old ex-wife of Bruce Willis had been in a birthday bash for one of her friends. People in the party already noticed Moore’s hyper mood behavior.
Demi Moore was Bruce Willis and Ashton Kutcher’s ex-wife.
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There is no right man in a marriage done in an instant. Marrying the right man is not a task so easy to do. One has to check the background; verify until the last source is uncovered. Verification is the first step and it is not an easy task either. A woman has to disguise as a FBI agent” to investigate all possible issues that may be in the man. But what if the woman is madly in love and the first step is not in her vocabulary?
Heaven on Earth?
So the woman is now married to the man she thought will give her heaven on earth. The man was faultless for the first two or three months, however on the fourth, the scary scene of war is now beginning to unfold. The beating is still bearable, but the thought of surviving on the fifth and so months is now nil.
What to do?
Do not panic. There is a solution to every problem. The following practical survival tips may help in getting back the life once made in heaven:
1. Be Calm. Don’t panic. Nothing is more comforting than becoming calm in the midst of “madness”.
2. Do not show any signs of resentment. Be a “saint” even for a while. This will save you from the pit of “hell”.
3. Show appreciation. Even if the thought of ending the man’s life is more favorable.
4. Continue doing the regular house chores with no reservations.
5. Do not face any argument with a red face. Talk with a happy face. Getting your face done with make-up may help cover anger.
6. Seek the help of a close friend or if money is overflowing, go to a certified marriage counselor.
7. If beating has been done, see the nearest man in authority and report the incident.
8. Be firm. Do not be fooled with another promise of heaven on earth.
9. Be a part of “violence against women” crusade
10. Be active in pursuing justice in spite the odds
If the ten practical tips seem to not work and the woman wants to save her marriage for the sake of her children, then be prepared to be a part of the “forgotten saints”.
Remember, preserving a marriage roofed in hostilities is not a good example. If there are survivors, it is because of luck. Luck by the way is defined as “success that you have by chance and not because of anything that you do.”
So, do you want to experience luck the hard way? Go, get yourself insured!
“Cruelty” is…well, good…sometimes. If you find me weird, then, let me explain!
There are instances in our life when we have to practice austerity though money is overflowing. Same thing with getting good results after being “cruel”.
Is the early noise not a “cruel” act? Do you think your children will heed your call if you just let them do their thing? Modern way of disciplining a child is more on the gentle side – good in some instances. However, reality speaks otherwise. Applying unorthodox parenting has its good and bad points. How to balance, depends on how you, as parents apply it.
“Cruelty” in its truest sense of the word is NOT good. However, apply “cruelty” in some situation with caution, it will bring in a good person out of a bad. Trust me!
It is better to be hated as long as the “cruel” ways will one day contribute to the character of the children (to become better persons).